Dear Seeker,

"Nothing is more discontented than our lower nature, the false self. It is always unhappy with one thing or another. If there is one weed in a field of roses, you can bet that is what it will see. Since it has no real life of its own, it must endlessly create stimulating thoughts and feelings of one kind or another in order to give it the sensations of being alive."

~ Guy Finley

Excerpted from "The Secret of Letting Go" (pg 92)

Special exercise: I'm not the one you're looking for

Without a doubt, you'll be able to test this exercise the very next time you interact with someone, whether it's two minutes or two hours from now. People bug us -- they just do. It doesn't take long to get irritated by someone -- your spouse who left their breakfast dishes in the sink, the cashier at the store who wouldn't let you write a check without your id, the person you drive by on the street who's walking their dog all wrong. Negativity knocks at the door, and we open it. This exercise is to help you catch that automatic, unquestioning act of just opening the door -- that is, the times when you let your mind engage you in an internal conversation about whomever or whatever is so bothersome. The next time you catch your mind fishing for your attention by urging you to get angry, spiteful, or judgmental, remember this phrase -- "I'm not the one you're looking for." See this unconscious activity of your mind as separate from the real you -- and close the door on its negativity.