Dear Seeker,

"Instead of always asking yourself why things had to go this way or that way, learn to ask, 'Why is the way I feel always determined by external conditions?'"

~ Guy Finley

Excerpted from "The Secret of Letting Go" (p. 74)

Special exercise: Stop getting in your own way

We bump into life quite a bit, don't we? Obstacles appear out of the blue and we find ourselves hit by dread, worry, disappointment, and conflict with others. Even on our best days we can't seem to avoid occasional flashes of irritation and impatience. Clearly something is amiss! The key to discovering what is truly getting in your way starts with asking different questions in difficult moments. When someone is rude and you wonder why they were such a jerk, ask yourself instead -- what in ME is offended? When you're late for an appointment and start to stress over everything getting in your way, ask yourself -- what in ME is so fearful of being late? Start to recognize that the "you" who fears the loss of anything -- respect, admiration, time, money -- is the real reason why you feel the way you do. A new kind of freedom awaits the person who begins to detect and drop the self that thinks it is being overrun by life when in fact it is the one crashing into it!